Friday, October 12, 2007

Cell phones

While we have had cell phones for awhile, and use them for much of our calling (especially long distance), we have not yet given up our land line. Part of it is fear that we'll be without power for a few days and wouldn't be able to charge our cells; part of it is reluctance to share our private numbers with strangers (even though it's much harder to track a cell number); another part is that we have DSL, which is bundled with our land line. So we're really in no hurry to give it up, even though it does seem like a waste of $30 a month.

I realized today another reason for maintaining a land line. Most of us have people in our lives that we talk to incidentally. Here's a common scenario - you call your mom every Sunday, but every now and then, your dad answers; you end up having a great conversation with him instead - one you would have missed had you been able to reach your mom directly via her cell.

I noticed this today when I called my sister-in-law. I really wanted to talk to only her anyway, but I used to just call her house, not her cell. A nephew might answer, and I'd talk to him for a bit. Then my brother would get on the phone and talk for a bit. We didn't often talk about anything important enough to warrant separate phone calls, but we had connecting moments in the midst of our busy lives. I miss that.

Love you guys :)

3 comments:

Ken said...

okay, so i don't have a landline anymore... this means you don't talk to me anymore... so i thought i'd drop a note... but of course, i don't know whether to put it in your "blog comment section," an email, or as a post on my own blog...

welcome to the world of individualization, where you have more autonomy but more isolation... everyone has to be MUCH more deliberate these days about who they will and will not contact...

i agree with you... the landline offered "extra" moments with others... as a dad, i would add that i do NOT like knowing that people are calling my kid, and i know NOTHING about it... because they have cell phones, anyone can call or text them, and i can be completely in the dark about who they're speaking to, with, or about...

i remember when a girl would call my house and get dad on the phone... he'd say, "who's calling," she'd say, "michelle," and she's say "michelle h." he'd say, "WHICH michelle h.," and then i'd be in BIG trouble... i want to be that kind of dad myself now, but i can't...

of course, their cell phones are really MINE, so i occasionally ask them for MY phone and review their contact list, their most recent calls, and their list of texts... this puts a healthy fear in them that breeds openness and honesty, and though we don't have the overlap that land lines bring, it helps a little nonetheless...

anyway... i liked your post... i enjoy NOT paying for a landline... then again, i pay EXTRA for unlimited texting among all four of us, so there goes the savings... what i DO like about the cell is getting ahold of EXACTLY who i'm trying to track down... and no more saying, "well, he didn't pass on the message"... can't do that when you're responsible for your own data and voice mail...

so there you have it... an update from the brother whose wife you'd rather talk to... :-) ... i know you love me, and i love you, too...

even if we don't talk much anymore...

:-)

my name is KEN

Kath said...

You could have just called me on my cell. But I might not answer because I can't find it.

Sorry I wanted to talk to Karen - as a nurse, she can answer questions you can't. I do enjoy talking to you about some things, but others are best left between girls.

While you're checking up on Marcus , you may see a few missed calls from me; that's because Audrey speed dials him quite often - Marcus is speed-dial 9, and 911 can be dialed even when the phone is locked, so the phone thinks I might be dialing 911, so unlocks itself.

Ken said...

nah, i couldn't have called you... you usually don't answer your phone! :-) and besides, leaving an email means you can get it at your convenience...

you're right... karen's got womanly wisdom i know NOTHING about... glad you keep that between you and her! :-)

i tend to check up on mason more than marcus, since mason's the one with 40 girls calling... marcus just has three, so he's not quite up to speed yet! hahaha...

love ya...